John ESENE

     When God joined Adam and Eve, it was evidently clear that Eve was the bone of Adam’s bones, hence the two became one. When God shows you your right partner, do like the wise shepherds: abandon everything you are doing and follow him/her prayerfully till you settle for a union. “But to all who received Him, who believed in His Name, He gave power to become children of God.” John 1:12.

     Many marriages are experiencing tutelage because of bribery and corruption. A young man decided to entice a beautiful girl with money so he could marry her. Money is not everything: the girl has feelings and needed to be in someone’s arms but the man was not physically available to love her most of the time. The girl pretended to love him until she made away with the sum of N3, 000, 000 from him and wished him goodbye.

      Rose needed a husband at all cost because her junior sisters and brothers all got married while she became a laughing stock at home. She ended up marrying Elder Henry who was nearly as old as her father. Few months later, Henry’s first wife Agatha, who had earlier abandoned him made a U-turn and returned home.

     By the time Agatha and her children made life difficult for Rose, she regretted marrying Henry and returned to her parents saying, “It is better to be alive as unmarried woman than to die for Henry.” Marriage is not a part time project hence; you have to plan it with God who knows what is best for you.

     Gabriel is a peace loving man who loves fat woman for a wife. When he met Comfort he was attracted by her body size and went for her. Comfort accepted Gabriel who was very small in size and humble too! After having three children for him, she abandoned Gabriel and went to court for divorce to enable her live without any man to boss her. When people tried to persuade her to change her mind, she told them the truth. Right from her childhood, she watched her father who was in the habit of making life miserable for her mother. So, she welcomed Gabriel with the intention of living with him for a short while. 

    Like she expected, the Court granted her the custody of the children while Gabriel had to be paying their school fees and feeding allowance. Today Gabriel lives alone but has to send money to his ex-wife as directed by the court. Those about to marry, shine your eyes to avoid marrying a heap of problems.

      Comfort’s decision is affecting her innocent children negatively as they live far away from their father. Some parents can endure hardships in their marriage for the sake of their children. And when such children grow up, they show appreciation to their parents. There is no marriage without problem and when you and your partner manage the problems well, many will see you as models.

      After many years of living with your partner, do you still feel incompatible? Don’t jump out of your marriage; resolve your differences sincerely with your partner and experience peace. Every problem has expiring date. Pope Frances said, “I want to tell you one thing, if we fight in the family, never end the day without making peace.” He recommended these words that should be common in every family: “please,” “thank you” and “I’m sorry.”

      “Be sober and alert because your enemy the devil prowls about like a roaring lion seeking someone to devour. Stand your ground, firm in your faith.” 1 Peter 5:8-9. Do not allow outsiders, money, power, position, selfishness or your job to disorganize your marriage. Learn from our model, the Holy Family and you will be glad you did.

      Hear the saying of old “Behind every successful man, there is a woman.” And now they say, “Beside every successful man, there is a woman.” Soonest they may say, “Before every successful man, there is a woman.”  And there must be a woman indeed for God created woman to make man happy!

      Jesus said in Mt. 19:5-6, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.” It is only in marriage that 1+1=1 and so shall it be for those who believe.

     Husband and wife should work together and keep their Marriage Vows intact. If you do the contrary, you will break your spouse’ heart! It is better to be alone than to be with the wrong person.

Some broken hearts never mend,

Some memories never end,

Some tears will never dry,

My love for you will never die!

 

      If someone’s action annoys you, calm down and pray over it lest you commit havoc and blame the devil for it.  Husband and wife, should have a room for forgiveness and reconciliation because of the love that brought them together. At the peak of your marriage crisis you can go to God who ordained marriage. Blessed Mother and St Joseph can also be of help regarding your marriage problems.

      Onyeka Onwenu in her song, “One love keeps us together!” told us how love can keep us for one another. When you love your spouse, you will give him or her benefit of doubt and pray for the family during crisis. A successful marriage shows couple who genuinely live together as one flesh. If you truly love your spouse, you will not allow an outsider to make you commit adultery no matter his or her riches, power, packaging, etc. You made your marriage vows in the presence of God and his people. When you allow the devil to influence you through any means, remember that God is watching you even if your spouse does not catch up with you in the act. You may deceive your spouse but you cannot deceive God.