Dr. Helen Titilola OLOJEDE

 

Beginning fortnight ago, we initiated a discussion about patience, drawing from Richard F. Clarke S.J.'s reflective writings. Our capacity for patience is continuously challenged by everyday obstacles that impede our progress. These challenges take many forms: waiting in lines, unfulfilled commitments, the repetitive nature of teaching, the unpredictable behaviour of young people, being interrupted while speaking, and countless similar frustrations we encounter routinely.

Additionally, patience is severely tested when others misinterpret or distort our words and actions. Responding graciously to such individuals can prove quite difficult.

These situations collectively reveal whether we genuinely possess the virtue of patience. How effectively do we navigate such trials? Our instinctive response typically involves avoiding those who cause us frustration, displaying our displeasure, or retaliating with equal hostility, a common practice of "matching fire with fire."

However, true patience demands a different approach: we must refrain from taking offence, suppress complaints, silence angry retorts, and extinguish the resentment that arises from how we have been treated or spoken to. While this standard appears demanding, it represents what patience truly requires.

Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) presents patience as the fruit of the Holy Spirit that enables the Christian to endure suffering, wait for God’s timing, and cooperate with divine providence. It further lists patience among the “fruit of the Spirit” (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self‑control). Patience is thus not a passive waiting but an active virtue implanted in the Spirit’s presence. It allows believers to bear trials with a spirit of trust and hope.

Scripture, particularly Saint Paul's writings, elevates patience as an exceptionally praised virtue. The Book of Proverbs asserts that patience reflects wisdom, James teaches that patience produces complete character development, and Paul emphasizes that patience is essential for fulfilling God's will and securing salvation.

Reflecting carefully on these teachings, we should examine whether we genuinely embody this crucial spiritual foundation.

Given these ideas, shouldn't cultivating patience become a priority for us? Let us approach this through prayer.

Blessed Mary, Mother of Consolation, pray with me for the virtue of patience. There are so many times when my lack of patience keeps me from becoming the kind of person God wants me to be. Guide my thoughts to you and the example we have in your own life. Help me to become patient, as you were patient. Through your guidance, may I become more accepting of others around me. Assist me to welcome difficult times with a patient heart. May I be patient, Mary, like your beloved husband, Joseph.

Pray for me, dear Mother of God, that I will allow the Father to come into my heart and help me grow in patience. Amen.