Why would you marry someone you do not love? Why would a woman enter into marriage with a man she does not genuinely love or have interest in? Why would a man do the same? Do you truly understand the implications of such a decision? I doubt you do.

I often wonder why some people get married- Some without purpose, vision, goals, or dreams. Some marry just to change their status, others because everyone else is doing it. Some marry for material gain, while others do so simply to please their parents. But not everyone is destined for marriage, and many people fail to realize this. In my opinion, marriage should be a choice, not an obligation. It is not a "do or die" affair; it is not compulsory.

Marrying someone you do not love is a serious and lifelong burden. It will bring disaster to your home. There will be no respect, especially if the lack of love is from the woman, she will not respect or fear her husband. And when there is no respect, conflicts will arise. A lack of love can even lead to domestic violence, as a man who does not love his wife may treat her poorly.

Love is the foundation of all things. If you love your partner unconditionally, everything else will naturally fall into place.

Marriage is not just a journey; it is a covenant between two people—unless, of course, the marriage is not legal. If there is no love, there will be no cooperation, and without cooperation, progress will be difficult. The couple will live separate lives under the same roof, like strangers or mere dating partners. Instead of growing in love, they will grow in hatred. Many married people have never truly enjoyed their marriage; instead, they constantly deal with conflict and unhappiness.

A marriage without love also affects the children. Children observe everything their parents do, and it shapes them psychologically. If a woman mistreats her husband and has a daughter, what example is she setting for her? Is she teaching her to be a good wife in the future? Many broken homes today are a result of bad marital examples. A daughter may adopt her mother’s negative behaviors toward her father, assuming that her future husband will tolerate them.

However, every individual is different, and her husband may not accept such treatment, leading to divorce. Couples who lack love for each other should at least try to cultivate love for the sake of their children’s future.

A woman who marries for material gain will lose interest the moment those benefits disappear. She will not care about her husband’s success or happiness but will instead live selfishly, as if she were still single. Marriage should be a partnership, a union where both partners work together through challenges.

The Bible, in Matthew 19:5-6, says: "...and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh." If a couple lacks openness and teamwork, they close the doors to progress. The saying "Behind every successful man is a responsible woman" applies only to a woman who truly loves and supports her husband, regardless of his circumstances.

If you are not proud of your spouse, why did you marry them? Some women publicly disgrace their husbands, and some men do the same to their wives. This is unacceptable, it only shows irresponsibility.

You go to Church, yet you do not treat your spouse well. You can pray and fast all day, but if you are not fulfilling your marital duties with love and respect, you are only deceiving yourself. Marriage is an institution ordained by God; if you choose to enter it, you must understand its responsibilities.

Marrying someone you do not love is like sentencing yourself to a lifetime of misery. Unless your children are unaware of your behavior, they will see you as a bad role model. A home without love will rarely thrive—it will have more sadness than happiness. Instead of glowing and prospering, you will diminish over time.

A wife who expects her husband to do everything for her is foolish and does not deserve marriage. Marriage is about partnership. Women should work and support their husbands to speed up the family's progress. God declared that man is the head of the home, but that does not mean he should be burdened with everything alone.

The wife is meant to be a helper, not a burden. If you are blessed with a loving, caring, God-fearing, responsible man, cherish and treat him well. A happy husband is a blessing to his wife and children.

Couples should enjoy each other’s company—play together, joke around, watch movies, eat together, bathe together, dress up for each other, and spend quality time together. Do not be a boring partner; bring joy to your home. Women are the salt of the world—let that salt add flavor to your marriage.

A man who cheats on his faithful wife is irresponsible. A husband who mistreats a loving and supportive wife does not deserve marriage. The Bible says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord." If you are fortunate to have a good spouse, appreciate and treat them well.

Misunderstandings will occur in marriage, but couples should resolve their issues with love and maturity, without involving outsiders. A marriage where both partners handle conflicts amicably will be stronger.

A woman who makes life miserable for her husband, or a man who does the same to his wife, will face judgment. No one escapes the consequences of their actions. Marriage is not for the unprepared; it requires commitment and effort. If you marry the right person, you will enjoy your marriage. If you marry the wrong person, you will regret it.

Children should follow the good examples of their parents, not their bad ones. Parents should strive to be role models.

Dear singles, do not be pressured into marriage. Marry when you are ready, not when your parents or society expect you to. Most importantly, marry someone you love unconditionally—someone who is also your best friend—to avoid a lifetime of pain, sorrow, and regret.