Prof. Victoria Olufunmilayo AJALA

Today, I, Victoria Olufunmilayo Ajala, the last child of our parents, write this tribute in loving memory of my beloved elder sister, Mrs. Mary Olufunke Bola—fondly known to many as Mama Yemisi. Still, to me, she will forever be Auntie Maria, Auntie mi, my treasured sister, mentor, and guiding light.

Born on July 7, 1934, Auntie Maria was the first daughter and eldest girl in our family of six children—three sons and three daughters. Her life was one of grace, wisdom, courage, and deep faith. She was called home to eternal rest on the 5th of September, 2025, leaving behind a beautiful legacy of love and virtue that words can only attempt to capture.

 

 

Beloved Elder Sister, Mrs. Mary Olufunke Bola

 

 

 

   A Sister Beyond Measure

In Yoruba culture, a big sister of honourable character is affectionately called Aunty—a title of respect, not merely kinship. Auntie mi embodied that meaning perfectly. She was not only my sister by blood but a pillar of strength, moral compass, and second mother to all of us.

As the eldest girl, she helped shape our lives in profound ways. I still remember my childhood admiration for her, and how I longed to follow her everywhere. I recall vividly when she gained admission into the Teachers’ Training College in Ado-Ekiti. She had wanted to take me along, but our dear mother, knowing how tender-hearted I was, discouraged it. Though disappointed then, I now cherish that moment as one of many proofs of her caring and thoughtful nature.

After completing her studies, she began teaching at Sacred Heart Primary School, Oke-Are, Ibadan, a Catholic convent school. It was during that time that I had the privilege to live with her, and those were some of the most joyful days of my youth. Her discipline, compassion, and gentle firmness became guiding lights for me.

   A Heart that Gave Without Reserve

There was a defining moment in my life when I was preparing to enter St. Agnes Teachers’ Training College. We were required to purchase several essential items—such as a pressing iron, a pillow, a bucket, and others—before resuming our activities. At that time, our eldest brother, Mr. Simeon Babatunde Olaleye (SBO), was abroad, and his wife could not afford to buy everything on my list. I was distraught and went to my Auntie mi in tears.

Though she initially said money was tight, her kind-hearted husband overheard and immediately asked, “Kilon jebe? Ko ni lo school ni?” (“What’s the problem? Will she not go to school?”). He urged her to take me to the market to buy all that was missing, saying that money should never be a reason for a child to miss school. Together, they made sure I had every single item I needed. That moment marked me for life—it was love in action, the kind that uplifts generations.

A Model of Grace, Strength, and Virtue

Auntie Maria set the standard for what it meant to be a virtuous woman, a responsible wife, and a devoted sister. She was our role model—firm but fair, gentle yet strong. She would not tolerate hearing that any of her younger sisters were facing troubles in their marriages. She stood up for us, prayed for us, and guided us with both wisdom and affection.

She was also a devout Catholic, a committed Church Warden, and a dedicated member of the Catholic Women Organization (CWO). Her faith was unwavering. She lived what she believed— discipline, service, and compassion. It was through her that her husband converted to Catholicism, and even in death, his faith and burial reflected the legacy she inspired.

Auntie Maria was blessed with one son and two daughters, all of whom carry the light of her virtues in their lives. Through them—and through all of us whose lives she touched—her legacy endures.

   A Life Well Lived, A Legacy Forever Cherished

Her influence reached beyond family—it shaped communities, inspired faith, and left footprints of kindness wherever she went. Auntie mi’s home was a haven of peace, her words a fountain of wisdom that guided us, and her presence a comfort to all.

Even my daughter, Mrs. Biola Onyekaba, captured this sentiment beautifully when she wrote:

“Mommy, my deepest condolences over your sister. We know she is in a better place. To God be the glory. Please be strengthened and encouraged, and let the peace of God abide in you.”

Indeed, the peace of God abides in her still.

   Farewell, Our Jewel of Inestimable Value

Auntie Maria, you have run your race, kept the faith, and earned your crown of glory. Your kindness, integrity, and faith continue to speak long after your earthly journey has ended.

You will forever remain in our hearts—a matriarch of grace, a sister of strength, a mother of love, and a saint of quiet influence.

Rest well, beloved Mrs. Mary Olufunke Bola. It is with heavy hearts that we bid you farewell, knowing that your absence leaves a void that can never be filled. Until we meet again at the feet of the Lord.

 

“Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints.” – Psalm 116:15