Vincent OBANIYI (Communication Officer, Diocese of Oyo)

 

As a Communication Officer, I have had the privilege of engaging with Catholic youths across our parishes. I’ve seen their joy, talents, and deep hunger for purpose, but I’ve also seen the distractions, the disinterest, and the confusion that modern culture sometimes brings into their spiritual journey.

 

Today, more than ever, we must ask ourselves some fundamental questions: What is the place of Catholic youth in the Church? And how should they prepare for key life decisions including marriage especially with non-Catholics?

 

This article serves as both an encouragement and a challenge to our young faithful across the world.

 

Our Youth Are the Present Church, Not Just the Future.

Too often, youth are told, “You are the future of the Church.” While this is true in a part, it misses a bigger point: You are already the Church today. Your voice, your energy, your commitment, they matter now.

 

The Diocese of Oyo recognizes the power of youth in driving liturgical, social, and evangelical work. From serving on the altar to coordinating parish media teams and other apostolate where youths get involved, Catholic youths are already making a difference. But there is a but, and the but is that we must go deeper.

 

Now is the time for young people to take personal ownership of their spiritual growth: Attend Mass with purpose, approach confession with sincerity, engage in Bible study, and cultivate a lifestyle rooted in prayer and service.

 

The Crossroads of Marriage: A Timely Conversation

 

One of the most frequent and delicate topics we encounter in parish discussions and youth fora is that of marriage especially to non-Catholics. Some approach this topic with a sense of independence, others with confusion or frustration. But what is the Church really saying?

Let’s be clear: the Catholic Church does not forbid marriage to a non-Catholic. But she insists on spiritual clarity, maturity, and preparation.

 

What You Need to Know as a Catholic Considering Marriage with a Non-Catholic.

There are two main types of interfaith marriage recognized by the Church:

1. Mixed Marriage:

Between a Catholic and a baptized non-Catholic Christian (e.g., Anglican, Methodist).

Requires permission from the Local Bishop.

The Catholic party must promise to remain faithful and raise any children born in such union in the Catholic faith, in agreement with the spouse-to-be.

2. Disparity of Cult:

Between a Catholic and a non-baptized person (e.g., Muslim, traditionalist, atheist).

Requires a dispensation (special permission) from the Bishop.

Presents more serious spiritual challenges and requires deeper counseling.

 

Potential Challenges in Inter-faith Marriage includes:

Religious Tension: Differing beliefs about prayer, Sunday worship, and sacraments.

Raising Children: A major concern is whether children will be baptized and raised as Catholics.

Spiritual Division: The danger of growing apart spiritually.

Family Pressure: External conflicts may arise from families or faith communities.

For these reasons, the Diocese of Oyo urges all Catholic youth to undergo Pre-Cana preparation and meet with their parish priests or the Diocesan marriage office before committing to any inter-faith marriage.

 

A Word of Encouragement

To every young person reading this: Choosing whom to marry is one of the most important decisions of your life. But never make that choice apart from your faith. Let Christ be at the core of your discernment.

If you are already in a relationship with someone of another faith, do not panic. Seek guidance; talk to your priest, speak honestly, the Church is here to guide you, not to judge you. Together, We Build the Church.

The Diocese of Oyo stands firmly in support of her youth. You are valuable, you are loved, but you are also called to live with responsibility and wisdom. Our parishes are not complete without your voice. Our future is not secure without your formation. So, take your place; be rooted in the Eucharist. Be active in service. Be bold in evangelization. And be discerning when it comes to love and marriage.

 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”

— Romans 12:2

Let us therefore continue to build a Church where the youth are not only present, but thriving in Christ.